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Swingland: Between the Sheets of the Secretive, Sometimes Messy, but Always Adventurous Swinging Lifestyle by Daniel Stern
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

As a former mystical Golden Unicorn, I am mildly disappointed that Swingland was not written for me (an embarrassing product of my Unicorn entitlement), but for an audience of men who may be interested in the Lifestyle. The writer's tone, though, is accessible to all and user-friendly, making it easy to overstep societal boundaries to safely experiment as a voyeur in the realm of the taboo.

In his book, Daniel Stern offers up his own unabashed experiences and practical insights as to the private counter-culture of the swinger's lifestyle. Filled with etiquette cues needful for avoiding swingers' faux pas, Swingland can accurately be described as a manual for no-strings-attached, group sexual activity. Filled with practical advice built from anecdotal evidence, Stern puts potential newbies in the know regarding situation specific topics such as setting up profiles on swinger's websites that get noticed, the Photoshop conundrum, and Lifestyle lingo that will have you talking the talk like a pro. After contacts are made, Stern offers guidance regarding meet-and-greets, courteous and successful house party hosting, and respecting both hard and soft-limit boundaries of new playmates. Particularly impressive is his ability to create a clear dialog explaining common snares and pitfalls for the single man to avoid when seeking playpartners, be they single women, married couples, or groups.

Swingland opens the door to a growing society previously hidden to mainstream America, filled with warmth, humor, and the ever present, neatly folded stack of hand-towels. Condoms not optional.

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